Spotting and reporting romance scams

By the Singles365 editors · Checked 8 November 2026 · 2 min read

In shortA romance scammer builds trust fast, then has a crisis and asks for money. If that happens, stop contact, keep the messages and report it to SAPS. If you have sent money or banking details, call your bank straight away.

Key facts

Report a romance scam	South African Police Service (SAPS), with your evidence
Sent money or bank details	Contact your bank immediately
Unhappy with how your bank handled it	National Financial Ombud Scheme, 0860 800 900
Common fake profiles	Widowed or divorced, working in engineering, construction, medicine or the military

Romance scams can happen to anyone, and the people behind them are good at what they do. Knowing the pattern makes them much easier to spot. Here is what to look for and who to tell.

Learn the pattern

SAPS warns that scammers often claim to be widowed or divorced and to work in engineering, construction, medicine or the military, using stolen photos. They build trust quickly, then have a sudden crisis and ask for money. Trying to cut you off from friends and family is one of the strongest signs.

Source: Boksburg Advertiser: SAPS warns about romance scams, checked 9 November 2026

Watch for the too perfect profile

The South African Banking Risk Information Centre (SABRIC) has warned that the promise of love can cost you dearly. The Financial Sector Conduct Authority adds that you should be wary of profiles that seem overly perfect, and never share your address, financial details or ID number with someone you met online.

Source: The Post: Don't get lured by promise of love, checked 9 November 2026

Report it quickly

If you have been scammed, report it to SAPS and your bank as soon as possible. If you think your bank did not handle it properly, the National Financial Ombud Scheme offers free help on 0860 800 900.

Source: The Star: Victims of romance scams urged to report fraud to banks and police, checked 9 November 2026

Questions

How do you spot and report a dating scam in South Africa?

Watch for fast declarations of love, a sudden crisis and requests for money. Stop contact, keep the messages and report it to SAPS, and call your bank if you have paid anything.

Will I get my money back?

It is not guaranteed, but acting fast gives you the best chance. Call your bank straight away, then report to SAPS.

Should I report a scam profile on the site?

Yes. Use the report button on the profile. Every report is reviewed by a person.